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Hurt

February 2, 2017

Ever since my childhood, all through the teen years into the adulthood I have been tall and skinny. Being tall and lean comes hand in hand, there’re not that many people who are taller than 6 feet (as I am) and that aren’t lean. I have always been a skinny and bony one, not by choice but by the genetics or whatever it is.

My mom has always been in an athlete shape, my dad never had a kilo extra in his life, my uncle was very tall and skinny man, my grandparents from both sides (mom’s and dad’s) have been tall and lean or skinny people. As family, we have always been very active, from doing all sorts of recreational sports, to dancing ballet to hiking regularly. We have also always ate good food, the typical Mediterranean diet, plates filled with fresh fruits, veggies, fish and lean meat.

Most of the produce came from my grandparents’ yards or mini animal stall/farm which we used to have and the fish was always caught freshly by my dad and uncle.

We did have treats and have enjoyed pizzas and cakes but never based our diets on those. When I was in high school and have discovered the wonders of bakeries, I must admit I did go bit nuts after all those filo dough pastries and doughnuts but even then I never gained any kilos.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I have gained around 8 kilos in total and had the most normal pregnancy which led to giving a birth to the most perfect and healthy child… Throughout the whole pregnancy I ate whatever I was craving but I have been active the whole time too.

In the past 3 years, I have been going through some rough patches in my personal life and with my health. I know that I might not look the most pleasant in the eyes of all of my readers or those occasional lurkers who come across my blog, but to call me out constantly on looking anorexic and putting me at shame for my looks without even giving a second thought before clicking the “publish” button makes me really upset.

Not because of myself, I have learned to ignore such comments because I know my truth, but I’m hurt for all those women, kids, men, whoever that are being bullied all the time for no reason, for all those people who don’t fit into the “perfect box” of how one should look or feel like… For being different!

I feel hurt for having to even write this post as if there is already not enough of sadness and wrongs going on in the world today?

“Hurt people hurt people.” Why? Why is this the case? I have been hurt so many times in my life, yet I have never wanted to hurt anybody, in fact, my hurt and my troubles have only made me more understanding and compassionate of others and what they might be going through.

You never know what is going on behind “those eyes” that you’re judging. You should first walk a mile in somebody’s shoes to be eligible to call them out on their actions… Even then, kindness and understanding are the only ways to deal with anything or anybody.

Even when something looks like an obvious, it might be as far from the truth as it gets.

Those are just some of my Thursday’s thoughts which I had to share with you. Thank you for reading! 🙂

 

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18 Comments

  • Reply Tessa Torrente February 2, 2017 at 7:16 PM

    you are beautiful – don’t let people hurt you

    xo – Tessa
    http://www.travelwheretonext.com

  • Reply Shannon Jenkins February 3, 2017 at 4:37 AM

    Aw I really cannot wrap my head around how anyone thinks they have the right to judge others, especially by their body type! I was always very thin growing up and one kid at school use to call me bones! So I definitely know how it feels.. I think skinny people are starting to get bullied more now a days too because it is such a huge no no to make fun of some one that is overweight but no one is taught that it it just as hurtful to make fun of someone for being under weight! Well I am glad you are not letting it effect you because you are so beautiful inside and out!!! <333

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  • Reply Amanda Lee February 3, 2017 at 6:35 AM

    I know exactly how you feel, I’ve always been very thin. On the contrary, it didn’t necessarily run in my life, everyone else is average but I always had a tiny petite frame. I was constantly told I should eat more and I was too skinny. I was bullied and when I tried speaking up about it I was told it didn’t matter because I wasn’t “fat and being bullied.” As if it still wasn’t picking at my appearance.
    It’s never easy. Just know, you’re not alone and you’re beautiful and strong!

  • Reply a trendy life February 3, 2017 at 10:52 AM

    As always great post! keep strong! Kisses
    http://www.atrendylifestyle.com/2017/02/looks-especiales-para-san-valentin.html

  • Reply Violette February 3, 2017 at 10:54 AM

    The hardest thing of this is to ignore what people say and don’t let hurt us. They are just jealous, that what I told myself when someone act like this with me!

    http://violettedaily.com

  • Reply Herdiana Surachman February 3, 2017 at 10:57 AM

    I think so many people have been hurt even today, or although they’re not showing it. The struggle is never ended, and our duty to spread love and help each other up. We are not alone on this and let’s spread love 🙂

    Herdiana Surachman
    DELUXSHONIST | INSTAGRAM | BLOGLOVIN | GOOGLE +

  • Reply LAGOSCITYCHIC February 3, 2017 at 2:19 PM

    It’s a really terrible thing. As you said hurt people hurt people. I’ll always try to spread positivity.
    xx
    .
    https://lagoscitychic.blogspot.com.ng/2017/02/finding-your-personal-style.html

  • Reply Lyosha February 3, 2017 at 6:12 PM

    I don’t understand why people are so cruel sometimes. I mean if there is something bad about person mostly he or she knows about it better than you
    very nice post!

    Lyosha
    Inside and Outside Blog

  • Reply Vanessa February 3, 2017 at 6:47 PM

    I’ve been following your blog because I always loved your photography, but never commented on your posts before. I honestly can’t understand what these people think they are achieving with such comments. Calling someone out for being anorexic (or “fat/obese” for that matter) isn’t helping anyone, it just hurts. Just because someone doesn’t fit into the average body type or ideal it does not justify or entitle anyone to make such hurtful comments. Quite frankly, I think it is no one’s f*** business. And in case someone is really suffering from anorexia, it surely won’t help that person to be called out for that on the internet. I wish people would think more about the effects their actions can have on other people.

  • Reply vaishali verma February 3, 2017 at 8:23 PM

    Be Positive. Feel Positive. Spread Positivity. It feels bad that people out there are doing reverse.
    You are beautiful. Do not let anyone make you feel different.
    -Vaishali
    http://www.vivaciouswish.com/2017/01/29/golden-age-life/

  • Reply Ivana February 3, 2017 at 9:12 PM

    You’re beautiful:*

  • Reply Cielo February 4, 2017 at 12:14 AM

    I understand how you feel. Always remember you are an amazing person and you are absolutely beautiful!

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • Reply Amy Arnold February 4, 2017 at 12:25 AM

    I am so sorry people have said negative and hurtful things to you. You shouldn’t have to deal with that. I am wishing you well and happiness and hoping you can brush the comments off.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Reply Toks February 4, 2017 at 1:32 AM

    Well said. Unfortunately many people think that because you have a blog, an Instagram account and/or a youtube channel, they have the right to judge or give opinions on something that they really have no idea about. Of course, opinions and structured critisicm about the subject in hand is welcome. After all, we can’t possibly all think the same way or like the same things. But downright mean and nasty comments, especially about a person’s looks is just not acceptable. These type of people must have very miserable lives and are just better off ignored. Have a wonderful weekend. xoxoxoxo

    http://www.toksblog.com

  • Reply Skinderella February 4, 2017 at 10:38 AM

    I’m very skinny too. I see daily people looking at me feeling sorry and sometimes they even come to ask me the reason for my body image. The don’t know that I eat much, I love good food, but still don’t get weight. Yes, I have healthy problems in my intestines and no, I am NOT an anorexic. I am ok with how I look even though I would like to have more kilos. This is what I have to deal with and that’s it. Please, people, every skinny woman is not an anorexic!

    We have a right to be as we are and look like us. <3 We have a right to be skinny women.

  • Reply Olga February 4, 2017 at 11:08 AM

    Amazing outfit!!

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  • Reply Liz Nguyen February 4, 2017 at 11:15 AM

    You’re beautiful. Ignore the rest

    Liz
    http://www.liznroad.com

  • Reply merrybelly February 4, 2017 at 8:39 PM

    you’re beautiful and your pictures are stunning! http://rougerubisse.blogspot.com/

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