Lifestyle, Outfits

Setting myself free

October 18, 2015

Perfection? Why the heck didn’t I realised SOONER that such thing does not exist and that trying to chase it and become it will only take you to the darkest places, tear your soul apart and make you completely loose the sight of what matters and what’s real?!

I have turned 28 years old today and I can honestly say that for the past 20 years of my life I’ve been working hard to become perfect at everything and anything. There’s nothing and I really mean nothing in this past 20 years of my life that I’ve done half way. I have either done it as perfectly as I could or I haven’t done it at all, but that part of me doing things and being as perfect as I could was the stupidest waste of time. I see now that I could have learned some lessons earlier and easier. I guess that I like to take the harder, more challenging routes… Ones where I need to open numerous doors in order to learn my lessons.

Then again… While chasing perfection, I can proudly say that I have done so many things so well and have been brilliant in them considering my age, situations and positions in life that I’ve been facing/ going through in the past 20 years. I remember that up until not long time ago, I used to take every loss, every step backwards SO seriously and so close to my heart that I was loosing sleep at night and have “zombied” through most of my days overthinking about the things that didn’t go right or that I could have done more perfectly.

I have stretched myself to the thinnest lines in order to be everything to everybody and to always impress myself and everybody around me with my “perfection”! I’ve done all of this just to realise that I AM and HAVE BEEN absolutely perfect and special human being by just being myself and that I had and do have so many great qualities and talents that make me irreplaceable, just like any of us do and just like any of us are irreplaceable. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have been sent to this life and world unless each and every one of us was sent here to affect, to do things, to change the world even in the smallest but still remarkable way.

It took me a long time to understand that by just making a person next to you smile, by wishing them a good day or by just being kind with them is already much more than any illusional, perfection possessed robot could ever give. You don’t have to go far and beyond in order to EARN the love of your family, friends, husbands, boyfriends… You just need to be you, the best version you can, but NOT a perfectionist driven monster because PERFECTION=EGO and you can not love with your ego but with your heart.

HAPPY 28TH BIRTHDAY to myself! The only thing that I wish to myself for this birthday is that I live from this moment onwards free of any chains of too high expectations from myself, from life, from others and enjoy in every given moment appreciating all that I am, people around me and what life has, is and will give me in the future. Life is beautiful! Let’s set ourselves free and START living it! 🙂

LOVE YOU MY DEAR READERS!!! You mean a lot to me, thank you for the endless support!

I’m wearing: Coat – By Malene Birger, Scarf – Kenzo, Bag – Chloe, Shoes – Marc By Marc Jacobs, Jeans – Tiger of Sweden, Blouse – Massimo Dutti, Sweater – Zara, Bracelets – JCrew, Earrings – Chanel, Ring – House of Harlow 1960

 

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70 Comments

  • Reply Sheldon Wilder October 18, 2015 at 10:28 PM

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  • Reply Neville October 18, 2015 at 10:31 PM

    Perfect look! Stunning!

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  • Reply Trang Do October 18, 2015 at 10:35 PM

    You looks very nice!! Love your shoes!!
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  • Reply Outi October 18, 2015 at 11:53 PM

    Happy birthday! Wise words and so true, we don’t have to be perfect. We just have to be nice to each others and live a life what makes us happy. 🙂 Have a lovely day sweetie! <3

  • Reply Susan October 19, 2015 at 12:04 AM

    Happy 28th Birthday I wish you many wishes and luck for you this year! You are so relate-able! But it’s nothing wrong trying to be perfect, its nothing wrong wanting to have 100% on the test. Because what if trying to be perfect is part of who you are? I think we can find balance and not let perfection consume us and forget who we are as a person. You are such a loving and warm hearted lady, again Happy Birthday! <3

  • Reply nancy October 19, 2015 at 12:20 AM

    Happy birthday!????????????good luck in your new life, great perception!
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  • Reply MartaBarcelonaStyle October 19, 2015 at 12:49 AM

    I really like the bag and the shoes 🙂

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  • Reply Hayley Larue October 19, 2015 at 1:33 AM

    Love this post you shared! Life is definitely beautiful, and it’s so easy to allow daily life to cloud our mind, and forget about everything we have in front of us. I hope you had a great birthday! <3

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  • Reply Ivana October 19, 2015 at 1:49 AM

    Awww… bas lijepi i iskreni post i uzivala sam citajuci ga. Djelomicno sam se mogla povezati s njime jer sam i ja u mnogocemu trazila savrsenstvo. Da bi ironija bila veca, cesto se trosimo na glupe i bezvrijedne stvari. Cesto zivis u zabludi da drugi nesto ocekuju od tebe a u biti si ti ta koja si postavlja te imaginarne/perfekcionisticke ciljeve u glavi i onda si lose ukoliko ih ne uspjevas zgotoviti onako kako si zamislio.

    Drago mi je da si spoznala ovako lijepe stvari i da s ovih 28 okreces neki novi, “pametniji”list. Od srca ti zelim sve najbolje i najljepse! ♡♡♡

  • Reply Lorena October 19, 2015 at 1:59 AM

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  • Reply Judith October 19, 2015 at 2:01 AM

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  • Reply Margaret October 19, 2015 at 2:15 AM

    Love this post you shared! Life is definitely beautiful, and it’s so easy to allow daily life to cloud our mind, and forget about everything we have in front of us. I hope you had a great birthday! <3
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  • Reply Matea October 19, 2015 at 2:35 AM

    E draga moja, evo još jednom da ti od srca zaželim sretan rođendan i sve najbolje – jer manje od toga ni ne zaslužuješ :* <3
    Moram ti priznati da sam se u potpunosti pronašla u ovom postu jer sam na sličan način i ja razmišljala o svom 27-om rođendanu i životu ovo proljeće. Važno je naučiti uživati u trenutku i u sitnicama, ne zamarati se velikim i nedefiniranim stvarima, ne opterećivati se suludim očekivanjima kojima smo sebe gušimo, ne pretjerano analizirati išta i naprosto živjeti, voljeti, uživati i shvatiti u kojim stvarima i stuacijama se osjećamo najbolje, što je nama samima najvažnije, a onda će se sve ostalo posložiti po putu 😀
    Šaljem puse i zagrljaje, super si mi u ovom outfitu – uvijek elegantna, jako mi se sviđaju zlatni detalji i balerinkeee 😀

  • Reply Carrieslifestyle October 19, 2015 at 2:51 AM

    wow so in love with your bag and your matching shoes

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  • Reply Rachel October 19, 2015 at 2:51 AM

    Happy Birthday Pretty Lady! Find the beauty in imperfection, hope you have a wonderful week celebrating.

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  • Reply pia October 19, 2015 at 3:47 AM

    gorgeous outfit, I love the bag and the cute flats!
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  • Reply Ivana October 19, 2015 at 4:00 AM

    happy b. day……

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  • Reply Giulia October 19, 2015 at 7:01 AM

    Dear Nataly, thank you for posting these words, reading others opinion about life is so inspirational. I’m living the same situation and it’s so hard to let the past go with all its imperfections. I feel always angry about things in my life that didn’t gone and this make me feel so bad. But it’s time to focus on present and try to live every single day the best we can. Wish you all the best and happy birthday!!

  • Reply Anna D Kart October 19, 2015 at 7:34 AM

    I love LOVE your red CHLOE bag! You look wonderful with that layering of the shirt and sweater

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  • Reply Emily October 19, 2015 at 8:28 AM

    Happy birthday! So wise for 28 years! I am loving the pops of red here.

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  • Reply Kate October 19, 2015 at 9:24 AM

    Happy B-Day Natali (:
    You look fantastic, your sweater is awesome!
    Have a great day!

  • Reply Naďa October 19, 2015 at 10:34 AM

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  • Reply Toks October 19, 2015 at 10:49 AM

    Happy birthday Natali. Such a great post and wise words and so absolutely true. Perfect outfit, love the coat. Have a great day! xoxoxo

  • Reply Amy Ann October 19, 2015 at 11:01 AM

    Happy birthday! I agree, that perfection is impossible. You are amazing as you are! I’m glad you have had such growth. I too feel more comfortable now than I did in my younger years. I love the pops of red in your look.

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    Great combination…love your bag!

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  • Reply Vale October 19, 2015 at 1:35 PM

    Beautiful Natali, let me wish you a happy birthday also on your blog. Your words touch my heart, as I have always been a perfectionist myself, asking too much from myself and also trying to keep control over everything – but we both know that trying to control everything and make it perfect does not work, because life is umpredictable. You have come to a great discovery, your journey has been filled with so many happenings that make you a unique person Natali, and yes, you are perfect as you are, without having to try too hard. Just keep being the smart, sensitive, beautifully sweet you and most of all, enjoy your freedom from your own chains, because when we demand too much from ourselves we’re just putting ourselves in chains with our own hands and it is not fair ! Kisses, sweet friend !

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  • Reply jenessa October 19, 2015 at 1:37 PM

    Amen sister!! I am with you! I always enjoy stopping by your blog, such depth!
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  • Reply Irene October 19, 2015 at 2:08 PM

    I love the post dear!

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  • Reply Esther October 19, 2015 at 2:53 PM

    Such a lovely post! I exactly know what you’re taking about, I always try to be the best at everything I do, and work so hard on everything that I barely sleep enough. It’s so important to learn to live and not worry about every little thing. Your outfit is gorgeous, it’s so elegant and I’m so in love with your bag!
    Thank you for this post!

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  • Reply Viviene Kok October 19, 2015 at 5:36 PM

    I have never been a perfectionist but being surrounded by the people who are, made me feel as if I’m not trying hard enough or abnormal. Doing my best is what I call for all the time, don’t get me wrong. But there is a fine line between being a perfectionist and a hard worker 🙂 Happy 28th dear 🙂

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  • Reply milex October 19, 2015 at 7:36 PM

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    happy 28th birthday! love hearing the wonderful lessons you have learned! so lovely to share! your outfit is so cute! dying over those darling flats!

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  • Reply Jess October 20, 2015 at 6:55 AM

    Lovely post! I try not to worry about the little things and just be happy with who you are.

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    It’s great to stumble upon here and see your unique, stunning Fasionista! I love your smile, and I admit I’m in love with your bag. I see the difference when you wear the scarf! Beautiful!

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    You look great! Love this outfit of yours and how you accessorized it.

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    I love your outfit. Nice pop of red.
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  • Reply Angie Wilson October 20, 2015 at 11:28 AM

    happy birthday beautiful! Love the colors in this look and the way you styled it!

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  • Reply vanessa October 20, 2015 at 12:14 PM

    lovely look!

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  • Reply Larissa October 20, 2015 at 12:34 PM

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  • Reply Ertan October 20, 2015 at 3:17 PM

    Wonderful post..I love it ^_^

  • Reply Yana October 20, 2015 at 5:08 PM

    Great post! Thank you for your wise words 🙂

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  • Reply Ashan-wa Aliogo October 20, 2015 at 5:46 PM

    Happy belated birthday! Very well said, chasing perfection only leads to your destruction. Love the outfit too especially the purse and those flats!!

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    So beautiful and chic I like your selection

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    Your looks seriously are the best!

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    I absolutely love the burgundy blazer! Great look!

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    The coat is nice

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    The bag is looking amazing!! 🙂

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  • Reply Jen @ Skirt The Rules October 22, 2015 at 6:28 PM

    Gorgeous as always! Happy belated birthday!

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  • Reply Anu October 24, 2015 at 8:51 PM

    Happy belated birthday and hope that the next 20 years will hold even better things for you! The sweater is very cute on you by the way.

  • Reply Debby October 26, 2015 at 1:50 AM

    Gorgeous photos!!

  • Reply Sabrina October 26, 2015 at 4:45 PM

    How lovely !

  • Reply Michaelia November 2, 2015 at 7:00 PM

    Pretty outfit! I love the post

  • Reply Hollis November 11, 2015 at 9:26 PM

    Very nice post!

  • Reply Hollis November 11, 2015 at 9:42 PM

    Great post love!

  • Reply Hollis November 11, 2015 at 9:50 PM

    Nice looks!

  • Reply Jo Hamlen March 9, 2016 at 8:45 PM

    As a Designer, I could write you pages on the subject of perfection.
    We have to be content with the things we have achieved. attempting
    to make things even better, will only make them worse.
    Oh, a belated happy birthday, Natali.

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