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What is beautiful?

September 26, 2016

We are born perfect. Little angels sent to the hands of our parents, completely unaware of anything, not even having a good sight, not being able to speak or move on our own, yet, we come to this earth as a perfection. Our parents see us as a beautiful gift… As we grow up and become more aware of ourselves and world that surrounds us, we realise that there are equally wonderful, perfect human beings around us too. We see our parents as our queens and kings, moms are the most beautiful creatures ever and dads are the charmers in their own way too. 😉 When we looked at ourselves in the mirror as little babies or toddlers, we would finally be aware of ourselves too. We would see how beautiful and cute we are, we would smile back at the reflection in the mirror and run off happily, minding our own day…

While we were kids, the beauty which we saw in us and around us, depended on how our parents saw us, how they talked to us and treated us. As we were growing older, we were exposed to many more people and information than before, so those were important influencers too on how we were going to perceive ourselves.

Having experienced first loves as well as first breakups, maybe experiencing comparison, jealousy or bullying from others were all the key factors to how we were seeing ourselves and how we would respond to that reflection “in the mirror” once we looked at ourselves in it.

So many times in my life I’ve hated the reflexion in the mirror… All I could see were the faults, not the ones that truly existed, but the ones that were the damages on my soul. I used to always seek for extra approval from my parents, acceptance from my siblings, being better or equally as beautiful, smart and “wanted” as my school friends… Later on in life, I have so often portrayed myself according to how some guy I liked or was with in a relationship saw me and treated me. To put it frankly, if somebody wasn’t nice towards me or wasn’t accepting me ( good or bad sides ), the thought which would immediately run through my mind was: “It’s because I’m not beautiful enough/ I’m not smart enough/ I’m not short enough/ I’m not entertaining enough, etc.”

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The more I’ve been looking for an approval and acceptance from everybody around me and not finding it from and inside of myself, I was getting more and more frustrated trying to figure out how to change myself so I would fit in the world and I would be considered beautiful, smart and wanted too. I didn’t realise that I was farther from finding out my peace and the truth than ever before.

What is beautiful? Who decides on who or what makes somebody or something beautiful? Isn’t it also that opinions vary, something that is beautiful or interesting to me will be of no beauty and interest to another person. After all, we all see things and people according to how we in general see the world and ourselves. “The beauty is in the eye of beholder.”

Yes, we are not those little perfect babies or toddlers who used to love and smile back on their perfect reflection in the mirror, but we are a perfect adults now. We are perfect, beautiful, smart and inspiring just the way we are. Some of our features are incredibly beautiful, charming and captivating and that’s what makes us beautiful inside and on the outside, not the flawless faces, perfect hair, height, etc. Our spontaneity, funny spirit, OUR BRAIN and the honesty of our smiles are things which can and will bring you and surround you with people who will love you and appreciate you for exactly who you are with all of your flaws and imperfections.

One last sentence… The happiest and richest of people in this world were not given the best looks, odds, smarts, you name it… They were aware of all of their flaws and have turned them into their main assets!

Next time you check out yourself in the mirror, kiss that reflection and tell yourself that you love yourself because you’re beautiful and amazing just as you are! Just try and see how people and the world will respond to “new” you. 🙂

I’m wearing: Jeans ( HERE ) , Shirt ( HERE ), Sunglasses ( HERE ), Tee ( HERE ), Bag ( HERE ), Shoes ( SIMILAR ), Necklace ( HERE )

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FINNISH:

Me olemme kaikki syntyneet tĂ€ydellisinĂ€. Olemme pikku enkeleitĂ€ jotka on lĂ€hetetty meidĂ€n vanhempiemme syliin. Olemme tĂ€ysin epĂ€tietoisia mistÀÀn silloin kuin synnymme. MeillĂ€ on tĂ€ysin olematon nĂ€kö, emme osaa puhua emmekĂ€ liikkua millÀÀn tavalla. Mutta silti tulemme tĂ€hĂ€n maailmaan tĂ€ydellisinĂ€. MeidĂ€n vanhemmat nĂ€kevĂ€t meidĂ€t kauniina “lahjoina”… Ja kun kasvamme ja alamme tiedostamaan itseĂ€mme ja sen mitĂ€ meidĂ€n ympĂ€rillĂ€mme tapahtuu. Ja me alamme huomaamaan ettĂ€ meidĂ€n ympĂ€rillĂ€mme on yhtĂ€ ihania ja tĂ€ydellisiĂ€ ihmisiĂ€. NĂ€emme meidĂ€n vanhempamme kuningattarina ja kuninkaina. Äidit ovat maailman kauniimpia ihmisiĂ€ ja isĂ€tkin ovat charmikkaita omalla tavallaan. 😉 Ja kun aloimme katsomaan itseĂ€mme peilistĂ€ ollessamme pikkulapsia tai taaperoita. Aloimme vihdoinkin olemaan tietoisia omasta itsestĂ€mme. NĂ€imme ettĂ€ miten kauniita ja suloisia me olimme. Ja me hymyilimme takaisin peilin heijastukselle ja juoksimme pois iloisena, jatkamaan pĂ€ivĂ€n askareita…

Se kauneus minkÀ me nÀimme itsessÀmme ja ympÀrillÀmme kun olimme lapsia, riippui siitÀ ettÀ miten meidÀn vanhempamme nÀkivÀt meidÀt, miten he puhuivat meille, ja miten he kohtelivat meitÀ. Mutta silloin kuin aloimme kasvamaan, tulimme enemmÀn alttiiksi muista ympÀröivistÀ ihmisistÀ ja ympÀrillÀ olevista tiedon jyvÀsistÀ. Ja ne olivat tÀrkeitÀ elementtejÀ sille, ettÀ miten me aloimme jatkossa nÀkemÀÀn itsemme.

Kaikki ensirakkauden ja ensi erojen kokemukset, ehkĂ€ vertailun kohteeksi joutumiset, kateellisuus ja mahdollinen alistaminen. Ovat kaikki olleet osatekijöitĂ€ sille ettĂ€ miten me nyt jatkossa nĂ€emme itsemme. Ja miten me vastaamme “peilikuvaan”, silloin kun me katsomme itseĂ€mme peilistĂ€.

Olen niin monena pĂ€ivĂ€nĂ€ elĂ€mĂ€ni aikana vihannut tĂ€tĂ€ peilin peilikuvaa… Ja ainoat asiat mitĂ€ pystyin nĂ€kemÀÀn siinĂ€ oli viat, ja nimenomaan ei ne viat jotka olivat todellisuudessa oikeasti olemassa, vaan ne viat jotka johtuivat minun rikkoutuneesta sielustani. Hain aina lisĂ€ hyvĂ€ksyntÀÀ minun vanhemmiltani ja minun sisaruksiltani. Halusin olla parempi tai yhtĂ€ kaunis, viisas ja “haluttu” kuin luokkakaverini… Ja elin aina myöhemmin elĂ€mĂ€ssĂ€ni sen mukaan ettĂ€ miten joku poika josta pidin, tai jonka kanssa seurustelin nĂ€ki ja kohteli minua. Eli ihan pĂ€hkinĂ€nkuoressa. Jos joku ei ollut kiva minua kohtaa, tai ei hyvĂ€ksynyt minua sellaisenaan. Aloin heti ajattelemaan ettĂ€. Se johtuu vain siitĂ€ etten ole tarpeeksi kaunis / tarpeeksi viisas / tarpeeksi lyhyt / tarpeeksi viihdyttĂ€vĂ€ etc.

MitÀ enemmÀn olen etsinyt hyvÀksyntÀÀ ympÀrillÀ olevilta ihmisiltÀ, löytÀmÀttÀ sitÀ omasta itsestÀni. Se sai minut turhautumaan siihen ettÀ yritin mukautua niin ettÀ olisin mahtunut tÀhÀn maailmaan, ja ettÀ minua olisi pidetty kauniina, viisaana kuin myös haluttuna. En tajunnut sitÀ silloin ettÀ ajaudun koko ajan kauemmaksi oman sisÀisen rauhan löytÀmisessÀ.

MikĂ€ on kaunis? Kuka pÀÀttÀÀ sen ettĂ€ kuka tai mikĂ€ tekee jostakin tai joistakin asioista kauniita? Eikö se myös ole niin ettĂ€ mielipiteet vaihtelevat. Joku asia minkĂ€ itse koen kauniiksi tai mielenkiintoiseksi, voi olla jonkun toisen mielestĂ€ vailla kumpaakaan nĂ€istĂ€. SillĂ€ loppupeleissĂ€ me kaikki nĂ€emme asiat ja ihmiset sen mukaan, ettĂ€ miten me itse yleisesti ottaen nĂ€emme maailman ja itsemme “kauneus on katsojan silmĂ€ssĂ€”

SillĂ€ me emme enÀÀ ole niitĂ€ tĂ€ydellisiĂ€ lapsukaisia ja taaperoita, jotka rakastivat hymyillĂ€ takaisin omalle peilikuvalleen. Vaan me olemme nyt tĂ€ydellisiĂ€ aikuisia. Olemme tĂ€ydellisiĂ€, kauniita ja innoittavia, juuri sellaisena kun olemme. Jotkut meidĂ€n piirteistĂ€ ovat uskomattoman kauniita, hurmaavia ja kiehtovia, ja se on se seikka mikĂ€ tekee meistĂ€ sisĂ€ltĂ€ ja ulkoa kauniita ihmisiĂ€. Ei virheettömĂ€t kasvot, tĂ€ydelliset hiukset tai oikea pituus etc. MeidĂ€n spontaanisuus, iloinen sielu, MEIDÄN AIVOT ja meidĂ€n hymyjen rehellisyys ovat seikkoja mitkĂ€ voivat ja tulevat tuomaan sinun ympĂ€rille ihmisiĂ€. Jotka tulevat rakastamaan sinua ja tulevat hyvĂ€ksymÀÀn sinut, juuri sellaisena kuin sinĂ€ olet. Kaikkine virheinesi ja puutteinesi.

Viimeinen mietelause… Kaikille maailman iloisimmille ja rikkaimmille ihmisille ei vĂ€lttĂ€mĂ€ttĂ€ annettu tĂ€ydellistĂ€ kauneutta, hyvÀÀ todennĂ€köisyyttĂ€ menestyĂ€ eikĂ€ viisautta… He ovat vain olleet tietoisia heidĂ€n kaikista vioistaan ja ovat osanneet kÀÀntÀÀ ne heidĂ€n pÀÀ voimavaroiksi.

Suutele peilikuvaa seuraavan kerran kun katsot itseĂ€si peilistĂ€. Ja kerro itsellesi ettĂ€ rakastat itseĂ€si, sillĂ€ sinĂ€ olet kaunis ja ihmeellinen juuri sellaisena kuin olet! Ja yritĂ€ nĂ€hdĂ€ ettĂ€ miten ihmiset ja maailma ottaa sinun “uuden minĂ€si” jatkossa vastaan. 🙂

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72 Comments

  • Reply a trendy life September 26, 2016 at 11:21 AM

    Love your look! Kisses
    http://www.atrendylifestyle.com/2016/09/hortensias-y-canotier.html

  • Reply Carolin September 26, 2016 at 11:30 AM

    Amazing text, I totally agree <3
    Also adore your outfit, you have such a great style 🙂

    What about following each other? 🙂

    Caro x

    http://nilooorac.com/

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 8:01 AM

      Thank you Carolin! I’ll def. check out your blog!

  • Reply Matea September 26, 2016 at 12:31 PM

    Svi smo mi savrĆĄeni u svojim sitnim nesavrĆĄenostima, posebni i jedinstveni, a ta veza koju imamo sami sa sobom je jedna od najposebnijih i ujedno najkompliciranijih, ali vrijedi svakog uloĆŸenog truda! <3 I nema do kariranih koĆĄuljica!

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 8:02 AM

      Da, slazem se s tobom u potpunosti a sto se tice kariranih kosuljica, oduvijek sam ih voljela i to se nije i nece promijeniti. 😀

  • Reply ivanasworld September 26, 2016 at 1:02 PM

    Beautiful look love the shirt 🙂 I like your blog and style 🙂
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  • Reply Ivana September 26, 2016 at 3:01 PM

    a nice one………

  • Reply Nada September 26, 2016 at 4:55 PM

    wonderful photos 🙂
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  • Reply Keri September 26, 2016 at 5:08 PM

    Babe, you are beautiful – inside and out! Absolutely love this outfit

    Enclothed Cognition

  • Reply Rachel September 26, 2016 at 5:21 PM

    I love your flannel! That’s my favorite thing to wear during the fall 🙂

    -Rachel
    http://thetrendytomboy.com/

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 8:00 AM

      Thank you Rachel, I love flannels too, always look great in combo with leather pants or jeans!

  • Reply Jessi September 26, 2016 at 5:22 PM

    That red lipstick looks so fierce! Love the whole look!

    xoxo
    Jessi
    http://www.thedarlingdetail.com/

  • Reply Jo September 26, 2016 at 6:07 PM

    Beauty begins on our insides and comes shine ng through to the surface. And a beautiful smile is a great bonus.
    I love that shirt with its beautiful design on the back.
    Jo

  • Reply mariafelicia magno September 26, 2016 at 7:30 PM

    you look so nice..i like your shirt
    kisses

  • Reply Amy Arnold September 26, 2016 at 8:19 PM

    You are beautiful, and I love the plaid as a second layer!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Reply molly September 26, 2016 at 8:38 PM

    I love this post…some really deep, inspiring thoughts here 🙂

    Xx
    Molly
    http://www.trendychickadee.com

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 7:59 AM

      Thank you Molly, I’m happy to read that you liked it!

  • Reply Rosie September 26, 2016 at 9:24 PM

    well your outfit is beautiful! lol

    Life is just Rosie
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  • Reply Beba September 26, 2016 at 10:44 PM

    Love the combination, jeans are great!

    Beba, http://www.bebagottel.com | Instagram | Facebook

  • Reply Stylehue September 26, 2016 at 11:28 PM

    Very cool look 🙂 And it’s so true, the only one you should look for validation from is yourself <3

    xo
    http://style-hue.com/

  • Reply Toks September 27, 2016 at 12:41 AM

    Great look. I like the way you’ve used the tie as a belt. xoxoxo

    http://www.toksblog.com/

  • Reply Mel September 27, 2016 at 4:33 AM

    Your bag is to die for! I love the structure of it 🙂

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  • Reply Shannon Jenkins September 27, 2016 at 5:37 AM

    I couldnt agree more! You look gorgeous! Those flares are so fabulous!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 7:58 AM

      Thank you so much sweetheart, happy to read that you liked this post!

  • Reply Margaret September 27, 2016 at 6:57 AM

    To kiss yourself in the mirror! Great idea! But yea the harder we try to find the beautiful and wanted self the further we are from those quality! Thanks for reminding us to embrace our difference and most importantly, we are all beautiful.

    xo Margaret
    http://www.maleemaleehong.com

    • Reply natali karppinen September 27, 2016 at 7:57 AM

      Thank you so much Margaret for this comment, I appreciate it a lot!

  • Reply sisilalala September 27, 2016 at 9:11 AM

    What a great style, love your outfit.
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  • Reply celyn September 27, 2016 at 10:55 AM

    I really love your bag! You look great!

    lifeisashoe

  • Reply Franci September 27, 2016 at 12:35 PM

    I love flare plants, this casual look is really trendy!
    Kisses! 💕 F.

    La Civetta Stilosa

  • Reply MĂłnica Sors September 27, 2016 at 1:15 PM

    Perfect look 😉
    xx
    MĂłnica Sors
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  • Reply Lauren September 27, 2016 at 2:29 PM

    Such a great, encouraging post. I love the last line about successful people turning their flaws into assets!

    Fizz and Frosting​

  • Reply Alison Hutchinson September 27, 2016 at 2:57 PM

    I definitely understand what you are saying here. It took me a very long time to be at peace with myself but once I found it, I became a whole new person. There really is nothing better than self love!

    Xoxo Alison
    http://www.stylingmylife.com

  • Reply Eleanor September 27, 2016 at 4:40 PM

    Love the look! Your text makes me wonder! Are we starting to accept our evolution!

  • Reply Fabrizia September 27, 2016 at 6:42 PM

    The flared jeans are so cool!
    Fabrizia – Cosa Mi Metto???

  • Reply Nada September 27, 2016 at 6:46 PM

    I love your bag!
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  • Reply Mira Tolvanen September 27, 2016 at 7:27 PM

    Lovely!

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  • Reply Ivana September 27, 2016 at 7:34 PM

    Draga moja, jos jedan odlican motivirajuci post! Posebno mi se svidja pocetak jer si lijepo docarala tu tranziciju iz divnog svijeta u onaj iskrivljenih moralnih i inih vertikala. Nazalost, svijet se nece promijeniti (moze biti samo gore jer se ide iz jednih ekstrema u druge) ali mi svakako mozemo! Zao mi je samo sto ja sama ranije nisam nego tek sada kada sam zakoracila u tridesete. Dobro, bolje ikada nego nikada… 🙂

    Kombica je super uber cool i ovaj tip traperica ti stvarno odlicno stoji! Volim te tvoje kulerske kombinacije jer ih bas znas nositi na svoj nacin! Odlicna!

  • Reply Jennifer September 28, 2016 at 8:58 AM

    You are so beautiful inside and out, Natali! Love how you styled this — so cute!

    xo, Jennifer
    http://www.publicistinpearls.com

  • Reply Hadasah Love | Style To Love September 28, 2016 at 9:01 AM

    Love everything about your look! So cute!
    Love, Hadasah Love
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  • Reply Nicole September 28, 2016 at 9:20 AM

    Wow love this post! So inspirational!

    xx

    Nicole | http://toogoldstreet.com

  • Reply Zorica September 28, 2016 at 9:22 AM

    The post is so inspirational
    Love your look
    You can never go wrong with red lips
    xx
    https://theonethattravels.wordpress.com/

  • Reply Anna September 28, 2016 at 12:06 PM

    LOVE your jeans and bag!

    xx,
    Anna

    LITTLEFASHIONFOX.net

  • Reply Katy Fox September 28, 2016 at 2:16 PM

    lovely 🙂
    xo, katy

    LA KATY FOX

  • Reply jasna September 28, 2016 at 3:10 PM

    Love your jeans 🙂 xx

  • Reply Roxanne September 28, 2016 at 5:38 PM

    Lovely and wise words. I love the end when you say to turn flaws into assets! It reminds me of a podcast I started listening to by Dr. Gail Saltz called “The Power of Different.” I encourage you to give it a try!

    –Roxanne
    http://glassofglam.com

  • Reply Kelsey Bang September 28, 2016 at 5:51 PM

    I love your perspective on loving yourself and sharing that with others! thank you for sharing the positive vibes for all! you are just so darling! love your flared jeans 🙂

  • Reply Tamara September 28, 2016 at 8:29 PM

    imperfection is beautiful. Confidence is beautiful and loving yourself is beautiful!

    XoXo,

    Tamara – LoveofMode.com

  • Reply SweetMona September 28, 2016 at 10:16 PM

    Great look, lovely bag!

    http://sweetmona.com/blog/look-of-the-day-romantic-dress/

  • Reply Viktoriya September 28, 2016 at 10:28 PM

    Natali, this is very deep and beautiful text, I totally agree with you! Also your outfit is super stylish!
    have a nice day!

  • Reply Cielo September 29, 2016 at 7:38 AM

    Totally love that plaid shirt! =)

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • Reply Anonymous September 29, 2016 at 9:53 AM

    love the embroidering on the flannel!

  • Reply Tiffany of Macarons and Coffee September 29, 2016 at 5:12 PM

    Great look!! I am loving the bag!!

  • Reply Itzy September 29, 2016 at 10:50 PM

    This look is lovely!

    Xo,
    Itzy
    http://www.lebellagypsy.com/

  • Reply Maria at Inredningsvis September 30, 2016 at 6:16 PM

    LOVE that sexy outfit dear 🙂

    Check out my new foxy underwear post:)

    Happy weekend! LOVE Maria

  • Reply Kate September 30, 2016 at 9:26 PM

    Love the print!
    -Kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

  • Reply telma October 2, 2016 at 8:20 PM

    Great post!

  • Reply Jecky October 2, 2016 at 11:47 PM

    Your bag is crazily beautiful!

    XX from Germany
    Jecky
    Want Get Repeat

  • Reply sophie November 3, 2016 at 1:08 PM

    Love how you mix the checked shirt with those jeans <3

    xoxo, Cool man style

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