Good Monday morning my dear readers! How are you? Weekend went well? 🙂 Did you make any plans for the most romantic day of the year yet? Yes, Valentine’s Day is already tomorrow and all I’ve been seeing and hearing about for the past two weeks was everything and anything related to Valentine’s Day.
Dear Frances, I’ve been meaning to write you… Thank you for making me feel so feminine, empowered, confident and strong! Thank you for being a perfect “cherry on top” to a newly found old me, just better, more improved version. I’m approaching my 29th birthday and I have never felt better in my own skin. Pair of shoes like these… Work like a pure magic in how a girl feels!
I grew up in a small village, while that was a blessing because I was protected at all times and I had a huge freedom of living a carefree childhood, playing for as long as I wanted outdoors, hiding in the forest, just sitting by the sea for an hour or even staying at my friend’s place over for lunch without having to inform my family about it ( there was no cellphones but only phones and after only few phone calls around, my parents would know where I was at ). To some extent, growing up in such a small and closed community, it was a bit of problem for me later on in my life. I was scared of being introduced to new people or go out in a big group of people.
Do you have those days in your life when you think that you’ve “cracked” the code? When you think that you totally got this thing called “life” and what it’s all about. I mean, there has never been more self-help books or inspirational speakers than there are nowadays, all of them teaching you something about life. Their “how to” books on what to do so that you would be happy or what to do so that you would succeed, how to this or how to that… I mean, we can’t be that lost?
You must have experienced those days when you think that everything is just falling perfectly in place, you have a clear vision about everything and you’re in a peace with everybody around you? If the answer is yes, well, congrats, at times, I have those days too… At times I have those kind of days when I’m somewhere in between, in a way as things aren’t maybe happening as fast as I have expected, but they’re still “moving”. Or in a way where I think that you know that person ain’t that correct in how they speak or act, but it ain’t anything real bad to not give them another chance… Or in a way where I have tried to solve this one problem for quite a while now, but hey, there are worser things in life I could be dealing with now.
Then there are those days like the ones that I’m going through right now… When your head hurts from thinking too much, from questioning too much… Those days when you think that everything you thought you knew or understood about life and people was completely wrong. Those days when you think that you could have done so many things differently and even though I don’t like to dwell in the past, sometimes it’s so hard to get rid of the past, because your past actions and choices are affecting the “today” that you’re living in right now.
Yep, not the most uplifting post, but one that I wanted to write down and start a conversation with you my readers… What do you do on those days when they look like a big, blurry mess…? When all of the lines are so intertwined that you have no idea how to separate what’s the “head thinking” and what are the “whisperings of the heart” and how to put these two back in sync with each other?
I’m all about positivity, inspiring people however and whenever I can, but I must say that I’m really tired of all of the “How to” books because what if there is no secret formula for having your thoughts, feelings and life in perfect order? What if it’s absolutely normal to feel and find yourself in a situation where you question if anything ever made sense in your life and it’s absolutely normal to find yourself in a situation in which you tap yourself on the shoulder and feel as if you’re the king of the world.
What if it’s good to every now and then have those days where you’re questioning everything? Aren’t those possibly the moments when you’re “growing”, when you’re indirectly admitting to yourself that you might have been smarter about some things/ choices, that not everybody will be as great as you’ve imagined them to be? Maybe it’s actually necessary to have those days when you’re completely lost? Isn’t that those are the moments when you’re about to see a brighter light on the new path that’s just uncovering in front of you?!
I have survived before those “How to” books, so I think that I’ll be fine now too… My blurry situation and unanswered questions might be in a completely different shape in a week from now and life will again look different and more “understandable” than it is right now. I also believe that we will never really “crack” the code of what life is or how it should be. Living it as honestly, simple and as kind as possible is all that matters…
Bag by Borsha, get a similar bag -> BORSA by Mala Radnja Dizajna
There’s a thought that’s been on my mind a lot lately… Sometimes, it’s been so present in my daily life that I’ve been loosing sleep over it. Maybe because I’m a too sensitive soul, maybe because I’m a mom that wants the best future and society possible for my daughter… Maybe it’s just because I bleed?! I bleed like everybody else does… Some people hide their sorrows better, some aren’t as skilful, but we all do, indeed bleed. What I’m talking about is – judging! Why do we judge each other so easily? We are not know it alls and we’re not more special than the person we’re “looking wrong” at.
We’re beautiful, unique creatures, all sent to this earth with our unique personality which was sent down here to make a difference… Even the smallest difference is a significant one and the one that was supposed to be done. Maybe we were sent here to influence by talking or maybe by singing… Maybe we were supposed to “touch” other people’s hearts by our beautiful paintings… Maybe we were sent down here to be somebody’s mom, a life teacher, maybe a daughter which will hold our hand through though moments in life, maybe we were supposed to write so beautifully that we would inspire others by that. We were all sent down to this earth with a special purpose and a good, positive, kind one that is.
Something that we might not all be aware of is that as much as we are unique, everybody else is too. As much as we’r vulnerable, others are too… No matter what it may seem on the outside, we all need the support from each other, understanding, love.
Way too many times I’ve seen people pointing fingers at each other, starting or continuing constant fights over such meaningless things… So many times bad and ugly things overshadow the beautiful moments we could be living. Only if we would see more clearly, only if we would try bit harder to be there for each other, if we would try to be more acceptive and understanding of each other, this world would be a much better and more promising place to raise our children in.
We both have good and bad sides inside of us… We are the devil that we feed. What you give out is what you build yourself of. The bad thoughts about yourself or others will always prevent you from completely finding beauty, goodness and magic of life… But remember, once you’ll bleed, you’ll want that saving, comforting hand and there won’t be a single one if you’ve lacked to give one when it was needed.
If we would just open up our eyes more often and instead of staring into our phones, tv and laptop screen and instead of living on the “auto-mode”, maybe we would see how much we and everybody around us needs a change, help and a promise of a better future.
I’m wearing: Dress – Zara, Sandals – Isabel Marant, Bag – Gucci, Sunglasses – Chanel, Ring – Deni design, Bracelet – Givenchy
Ok, ok, I do live in an old building, but it does have an elevator. Nice, old one… With an iron door and a wooden bench, charming one. I never ride that elevator. I live on the 6th floor and I always walk the stairs up, every single day, couple of times a day.
I’m not afraid of elevators ( even though I did get stuck 2-3 times in one of them throughout past 28 years ) but I rather walk the stairs up than take an elevator ride… There’s so much that “happens” on my walk up… Life got a whole another perspective. Now I know that there’s no an elevator to success… There are no shortcuts to “making it” in job, relationships… in life.
The best of times happen on your walk up the stairs. This walk… It might take longer than an elevator ride, it might make your butt cheeks hurt, you might even stop for a moment on your way up to catch a breath, reassess and then keep on walking the mountain of stairs again. True beauty and a key to success in anything lies exactly there, on the wavy and demanding way up. The journey which you decide to walk on every single day and everything that you learn from taking the longer, harder way up ( towards your goal ) is what will make you appreciate ( and cease ) your goal. Once you do reach it, it will give you the feeling and a unique life story that no single elevator ride ever could!
It will teach you survival, it will show you how to fight for your goal, it’ll give you tools and guidance in how to reach it too… Once you do, you’ll then see how the road to that goal has transformed you and opened some new horizons for you, so the road to another goal, dream… success keeps on shaping in the distance and you know that you must keep on moving forward. As long as you do keep on moving forward in life, it means that you’re alive and kicking’. As soon as you stop moving, you’ve signed your death bed papers.
I always say that no matter how much I have done ( and this doesn’t mean that I don’t appreciate every single achievement ) I’m only as good as I was yesterday. I’m only as good of a mom as I was up until yesterday, I’m only as good of a photographer as my latest photo, I’m only as good of an influencer as my latest post. Get the picture? Always keep on moving, carving your own path and listen to your own gut on the way… On the way up to your success, with NO elevator ride there.
Have a wonderful Monday my friends! Much love to every single one of you and THANK you for every comment that you leave me here, I read all of them and try my best to answer all of them too. 🙂
I’m wearing: Boots – Chanel, Bag – Borsha, Jeans – Tiger of Sweden, Sweater – Max Mara, Coat – , Ring – Free People, Scarf & necklace – Zara, Coat – Helene Berman
New week is here and I love the “freshness” that each Monday brings! 🙂 How was your weekend? What did you do? I had a relaxing weekend spent with my friends, walking around the city, enjoying the sunshine which finally arrived to Helsinki, went for a dinner date with 3 kids being part of it and have loved every moment of it! I have possibly drooled over my friend’s new bag and I have possibly purchased one too… 😀
Good Friday morning everybody! I would like to thank you all for the feedback on my previous post. I have read every single comment and some of them were absolutely wonderful because they were honest, insightful and you have opened up/ got engaged in the discussion which was the point of the whole post.
Fantastic Wednesday is in front of us dear people so let’s get the best out of it. I have this incredibly big and positive fighting spirit/ mode going on and right now, nothing seems difficult or impossible to go through with.
Rainy morning… I love to wake up to the sound of rain hitting against my windows. When I was little, I used to love spending early mornings in bed, just watch the rain fall and secretly hope that I don’t have to go to school and can just enjoy the sight from my bed a little bit longer. 🙂