I’ve always been a lover of delicate, feminine, timeless pieces, esp. when it comes to jewellery! I’m a jewellery lover and feel “naked” if I’m not wearing at least one piece on me… Somehow, I feel that none of my looks or outfits aren’t ready unless I have put on that perfect final touch with a favourite jewellery item.
We are born perfect. Little angels sent to the hands of our parents, completely unaware of anything, not even having a good sight, not being able to speak or move on our own, yet, we come to this earth as a perfection. Our parents see us as a beautiful gift… As we grow up and become more aware of ourselves and world that surrounds us, we realise that there are equally wonderful, perfect human beings around us too. We see our parents as our queens and kings, moms are the most beautiful creatures ever and dads are the charmers in their own way too. 😉 When we looked at ourselves in the mirror as little babies or toddlers, we would finally be aware of ourselves too. We would see how beautiful and cute we are, we would smile back at the reflection in the mirror and run off happily, minding our own day…
Being of a different kind… Let me tell you, not an easy path to follow. Ever since my birth, I was of a different kind and it took me a loooong time to recognise and then accept this. While I always knew deep down inside who I am, what I feel, think and what I want, I had hard times accepting the fact that being of a different kind means walking many different roads often alone than with a company.
Funny fact about me: I used to be into interior decor for many years and I was so serious about it that I wanted to study it. That was up until the moment I have realised that a lot of “counting & calculating”, meaning mathematics was involved in those studies, so I gave up on the idea of studying interior decor. Even though I never ended up being a professional at this, I did always kept my fire and interest burning for decorating and re-organising spaces, namely my own home(s).
It’s been a little bit over 8 years since I have moved to Helsinki. No matter where I go, to known or the unknown cities/ countries, I always love to wonder around and discover new, exciting and interesting spots. I was so happy when I found out that even after 8 years of living here, there are some undiscovered places in Helsinki which I was more than happy to visit and find out what makes them so special. One of those places was the island Tervasaari! I took a walk from the city center all the way to Tervasaari ( it’s easily accessible via small bridge ) and it took me about 30 mins of nice and slow paced walk. I believe that with the car, getting to Tervasaari, even in the worst of traffic it wouldn’t take you longer than 15 mins.
Do you have those days in your life when you think that you’ve “cracked” the code? When you think that you totally got this thing called “life” and what it’s all about. I mean, there has never been more self-help books or inspirational speakers than there are nowadays, all of them teaching you something about life. Their “how to” books on what to do so that you would be happy or what to do so that you would succeed, how to this or how to that… I mean, we can’t be that lost?
You must have experienced those days when you think that everything is just falling perfectly in place, you have a clear vision about everything and you’re in a peace with everybody around you? If the answer is yes, well, congrats, at times, I have those days too… At times I have those kind of days when I’m somewhere in between, in a way as things aren’t maybe happening as fast as I have expected, but they’re still “moving”. Or in a way where I think that you know that person ain’t that correct in how they speak or act, but it ain’t anything real bad to not give them another chance… Or in a way where I have tried to solve this one problem for quite a while now, but hey, there are worser things in life I could be dealing with now.
Then there are those days like the ones that I’m going through right now… When your head hurts from thinking too much, from questioning too much… Those days when you think that everything you thought you knew or understood about life and people was completely wrong. Those days when you think that you could have done so many things differently and even though I don’t like to dwell in the past, sometimes it’s so hard to get rid of the past, because your past actions and choices are affecting the “today” that you’re living in right now.
Yep, not the most uplifting post, but one that I wanted to write down and start a conversation with you my readers… What do you do on those days when they look like a big, blurry mess…? When all of the lines are so intertwined that you have no idea how to separate what’s the “head thinking” and what are the “whisperings of the heart” and how to put these two back in sync with each other?
I’m all about positivity, inspiring people however and whenever I can, but I must say that I’m really tired of all of the “How to” books because what if there is no secret formula for having your thoughts, feelings and life in perfect order? What if it’s absolutely normal to feel and find yourself in a situation where you question if anything ever made sense in your life and it’s absolutely normal to find yourself in a situation in which you tap yourself on the shoulder and feel as if you’re the king of the world.
What if it’s good to every now and then have those days where you’re questioning everything? Aren’t those possibly the moments when you’re “growing”, when you’re indirectly admitting to yourself that you might have been smarter about some things/ choices, that not everybody will be as great as you’ve imagined them to be? Maybe it’s actually necessary to have those days when you’re completely lost? Isn’t that those are the moments when you’re about to see a brighter light on the new path that’s just uncovering in front of you?!
I have survived before those “How to” books, so I think that I’ll be fine now too… My blurry situation and unanswered questions might be in a completely different shape in a week from now and life will again look different and more “understandable” than it is right now. I also believe that we will never really “crack” the code of what life is or how it should be. Living it as honestly, simple and as kind as possible is all that matters…
Bag by Borsha, get a similar bag ->Â BORSA by Mala Radnja Dizajna
Ok, ok, I do live in an old building, but it does have an elevator. Nice, old one… With an iron door and a wooden bench, charming one. I never ride that elevator. I live on the 6th floor and I always walk the stairs up, every single day, couple of times a day.
I’m not afraid of elevators ( even though I did get stuck 2-3 times in one of them throughout past 28 years ) but I rather walk the stairs up than take an elevator ride… There’s so much that “happens” on my walk up… Life got a whole another perspective. Now I know that there’s no an elevator to success… There are no shortcuts to “making it” in job, relationships… in life.
The best of times happen on your walk up the stairs. This walk… It might take longer than an elevator ride, it might make your butt cheeks hurt, you might even stop for a moment on your way up to catch a breath, reassess and then keep on walking the mountain of stairs again. True beauty and a key to success in anything lies exactly there, on the wavy and demanding way up. The journey which you decide to walk on every single day and everything that you learn from taking the longer, harder way up ( towards your goal ) is what will make you appreciate ( and cease ) your goal. Once you do reach it, it will give you the feeling and a unique life story that no single elevator ride ever could!
It will teach you survival, it will show you how to fight for your goal, it’ll give you tools and guidance in how to reach it too… Once you do, you’ll then see how the road to that goal has transformed you and opened some new horizons for you, so the road to another goal, dream… success keeps on shaping in the distance and you know that you must keep on moving forward. As long as you do keep on moving forward in life, it means that you’re alive and kicking’. As soon as you stop moving, you’ve signed your death bed papers.
I always say that no matter how much I have done ( and this doesn’t mean that I don’t appreciate every single achievement ) I’m only as good as I was yesterday. I’m only as good of a mom as I was up until yesterday, I’m only as good of a photographer as my latest photo, I’m only as good of an influencer as my latest post. Get the picture? Always keep on moving, carving your own path and listen to your own gut on the way… On the way up to your success, with NO elevator ride there.
Have a wonderful Monday my friends! Much love to every single one of you and THANK you for every comment that you leave me here, I read all of them and try my best to answer all of them too. 🙂
I’m wearing: Boots – Chanel, Bag – Borsha, Jeans – Tiger of Sweden, Sweater – Max Mara, Coat – , Ring – Free People, Scarf & necklace – Zara, Coat – Helene Berman
Couple of days ago, I watched a movie and while it was an awesome comedy which made me laugh a lot, it actually shook me up for a moment and made me think… It made me think about the fact of “needing”. I wondered where does this feeling come from? I have and still see it’s presence in my life. Needing this, that or somebody has always been part of my daily life. How many times do you catch yourself needing something or someone?
True, there is a beautiful comfort in having somebody to share your life with, to lay out your worries and thoughts and not get judged, there is a great feeling of having something, like a good car that you can get around with, a home to have the roof over your head, etc. BUT! How about the daily needs of things and people which we often think that we can’t live without? Then you wake up someday, by your choice or by a “mistake” and realise that you, in fact, can live without so much and still be the happiest person alive.
I can tell you that when I had the most in my life ( materialistically ) and was constantly surrounded by and at the same time needing lots of people, I was the most unhappiest. Cleaning out your closet of unnecessary things which you though that you NEED, cleaning out your life of bad influence and people with the wrong energy, friends or even relatives that you thought you NEEDed to be happy or complete, can bring such a closure and shine a new light in your life.
Sure, it will also bring you to face the mirror and the person, the only person that you truly need to be in touch with – YOUR INNER SELF. If you can look yourself in the mirror for longer than a minute ( not counting you getting ready for a night out and putting your make up on 😀 ) tell me how incredible and movig that was for you?! That moment of realisation that you’re special, you’re strong and that when you’re best friends with yourself, you’ll conquer anything and everything… You won’t be needing things and people, because you will see them in a completely different way. You’ll see them as a true gift and enrichment of your life, rather than a discomfortable feeling of “having-not having” and needing!
Everything you need or ever might NEED, you have it all hidden inside of you. The biggest power and all of the beauty are within you. Stop wasting them needing an approval from things or people… Stop needing other people or things to fix up your life and make it special. You need yourself, so let go of the chains and start breathing… Without needing! 🙂
Happy Wednesday everybody!
I’m wearing: Boots – Minna Parikka, Bag – Givenchy, Coat – MaxMara, Sweatshirt & scarf – Kenzo, Blouse – Massimo Dutti, Jeans – Tiger of Sweden, Bracelet – Balenciaga, Ring – Deni design
Pulse. Sometimes I just need to remember to stop for a moment and “check” my pulse. It’s incredible how much we’re capable of putting a big load of responsibilities and tasks on our shoulders, running around, making a living, trying to balance all of the roles that we’re so to say, playing in our lives… How often are we guilty of not putting ourselves in the first place much more often?!
Checking your own pulse… Being in a complete silence, not thinking about anything, not doing anything, just sitting or laying down, listening to your own heartbeat… When was the last time that you have done this? I truly can’t remember when was the last time that I have done it.
Even when I have my “down time”, it still involves some sort of electronics around me, thoughts still rushing through my mind and/ or worrying about “what could maybe be” with whatever it is that might be bothering me or which tasks I haven’t managed to take care of today and how can I solve them tomorrow, etc.
I had a pretty stressful week, esp. the weekend and I’ll do my best to remember and check my own pulse more often this week, worry less, stress less and treat myself a little bit more. New working BUT wise!! and relaxing week, here I come! 😀
Happy Monday everybody!
I’m wearing: Blazer – Alice & Olivia, Blouse – Acne, Skirt – Zara, Boots – Ten points, Bag – Lumi, Sunglasses – Celine, Lipstick – Mac
Photography by:Â Rita Miklan
I’ve always been a girl who loves to wear jewelry and I could not imagine myself without a single piece of it on me when I’m getting ready to go to run my errands, go to the meetings or esp. when going out on a dinner date!
